It’s natural for children to experience some stress before a test or a big project, but when that worry escalates into a pattern of anxiety—manifesting as frequent headaches, stomach aches, or outright school refusal—it’s time for parental intervention. This type of anxiety often centers around a fear of failure, social rejection, or being called out in class. A key first step is to gently explore the source of the anxiety without dismissing or minimizing their feelings. Validate their stress by saying, “I know tests are scary, but we can face this together.”
To address the issue, work on teaching your child coping mechanisms, such as simple deep-breathing exercises or positive self-talk before high-stress events. Communicate with the school counselor and teacher to discuss potential accommodations. This might include breaking down large assignments, allowing them to take a test in a quieter room, or having a non-verbal signal they can use with the teacher if they feel overwhelmed. Recognizing school anxiety early and seeking professional help if necessary ensures that school remains a place of learning, not a source of fear.
Navigating these challenges can feel overwhelming, but remember, you’re not alone. Open communication, proactive research, and collaboration with school staff are your best tools in ensuring your child has a positive and productive school experience. If you have questions, or need help navigating the school system for your child be sure to contact us here at Their F1RST Teacher.
Dr. Nakiesha Sinclair
Executive Director
Their FIRST Teacher