Receiving a poor grade can be upsetting for both you and your child, but your reaction in that moment is critical. The first paragraph of the conversation should be about empathy and support, not anger or disappointment. Avoid accusatory language like, “Why did you fail?” and instead use an inviting tone: “I see this grade is lower than expected. Let’s look at it together and figure out what went wrong.” Your goal is to convey that you are a teammate, not an adversary, in solving this problem. Focus the discussion on the effort they put in, not just the final outcome.
The second paragraph of the conversation should pivot to actionable steps and problem-solving. Review the assignments, tests, or participation scores that led to the grade. Was it a lack of studying, missed assignments, or a conceptual misunderstanding? Help your child set small, realistic goals for the next grading period, such as, “We will review your notes for 10 minutes every night,” or “You will turn in every homework assignment on time.” This shifts the focus from past failure to future success, teaching them a valuable lesson in accountability and self-improvement.
Navigating these challenges can feel overwhelming, but remember, you’re not alone. Open communication, proactive research, and collaboration with school staff are your best tools in ensuring your child has a positive and productive school experience. If you have questions, or need help navigating the school system for your child be sure to contact us here at Their F1RST Teacher.
Dr. Nakiesha Sinclair
Executive Director
Their FIRST Teacher